5.31.2013

1 year later : by Jean & Amy

umma*etc turned 1 year old yesterday!
 
Thank you all for reading and sharing umma*etc with others.  We started umma*etc just for our own sake-- to rant, remember, complain, confess and share our experiences as newbie ummas.  But we are truly blessed by all the love we've received from our readers and reminded that we are not alone in this wonderful journey called parenthood!
 

So, on to another 21,000 page views as we embark on our second year with new experiences, more conundrums and more babies (at least for Amy!).  Hopefully we won't run into our own version of the terrible two's! ;-)


5.28.2013

a healthier mac and cheese : by amy

Logan is starting commercial daycare in a few weeks.  I'm not too cray-cray about their meal plan option, so I'm thinking of packing his lunch for his 3 days/week at daycare.  But...what to pack for my picky toddler who can't quite feed himself properly with utencils just yet?  He likes to eat bread, cheese, yogurt, broccoli/carrots/peas, all fruits (except cherries) and rice/soup.  He doesn't do many pastas, quesadillas or meat very well.  So I recently started thinking about portable, well-balanced lunch options for him that can be microwavable.  It also stinks that he doesn't eat pasta too well since pasta is just so easy to make.  His current care provider says he does eat mac and cheese.  I rarely make mac and cheese because it's so rich and heavy due to the butter-laden roux.  Actually, I made it once, and neither Logan nor my husband ate it (husband was training for a bike race at the time), so I was forced to eat the entire thing.  It didn't do my waistline and chins any good.

Anyway, since mac and cheese (or elbow pasta) seemed to be the only pasta that Logan would eat for the time being, I wanted to try to make an elbow pasta dish that Logan could eat at daycare-- preferably one that's somewhat healthy.  After doing some research, I found a way of making the cheese sauce a little more heart-healthy.  Other than the altered roux, this is an original recipe by yours truly!  You can eat it right after mixing the pasta up in the cheese sauce, or if you prefer a little more texture, you can bake it with some extra cheese and panko sprinkled on top.  The latter will result in a less-saucy mac and cheese but will have a great, crispy top texture.  See below for my recipe!

 



Amy's Healthier Mac and Cheese
Ingredients:
- 1 box/pound of elbow pasta
- 2-3 cups of shredded cheese (I used a Kraft/Philadelphia Cream Cheese blend b/c it looked interesting.  You can use freshly shredded or whatever cheese your heart desires)
- 1 grated zucchini
- 1 diced onion
- 1 package of baby spinach, roughly chopped
- 1.5 cups of whole milk, divided (1 cup / 0.5 cup)
- 2 tablespoons of all purpose flour
- salt and pepper to taste (I never measure this!)
- panko breadcrumbs

Directions:
(preheat your oven to 350 degrees if you plan on baking)
Boil the pasta: If you choose to bake this, you want to undercook it by a 2-3 minutes since it will continue baking in the oven.   If you don't plan on baking this, boil according to the box's instructions-- don't forget to season your pasta!  Drain and set aside.
Cook the veggies:  Saute the grated zucchini and diced onions in a pan with some olive oil.  Season with salt and pepper.  Once the onions are softened, add in the package of chopped baby spinach.  Gently fold the sauteed veggies over the spinach to help wilt it and cook it down.  Once the spinach is cooked, set the pan aside.
- Make the cheese sauce: Warm 1 cup of milk in a pot over low-medium heat (do not let it boil!).  In the meantime, in a separate bowl/cup, mix the flour with the remaining 0.5 cup of milk.  Whisk to make a smooth paste.  Once the warmed milk is steaming, pour the paste mixure into the pot and turn the heat to low.  Continue whisking the mixture for 3-4 minutes until the roux becomes smooth and thick (do the back-of-the-spoon test).  Once thickened, add your shredded cheese (if baking, use 2.5 cups and save the remainder for the topping).  Keep stirring to make a smooth cheesey sauce and then take the pot off the heat.  Season with salt and pepper to your liking. 
- Combine and eat/bake!: Mix your sauteed veggies into the cheese sauce.  Then pour all of your elbow pasta into the cheese sauce and carefully combine.  You can serve it just like this.  Or, you can pour your mac and cheese into a baking dish, top it with leftover cheese, panko and a light drizzle of olive oil, and pop it into a 350 degree oven for 30 minutes. 

P.S.: Logan's daycare lunch menu will likely consist of a variation of the following:
- steamed dumplings / steamed veggies / fruit
- kimbap (Korean rice rolls) / fruit
- umma's healthier mac n' cheese / fruit
- rice/soup / steamed veggies / fruit
- cut up ravioli (or any stuffed pasta with ricotta cheese) / steamed veggies / fruit

5.17.2013

toddler etiquette : by jean

Scenario 1:

Miles and Toddler X are playing with a toy.  Miles is not sharing and takes it away from Toddler X, leaving Toddler X crying.  Do I:

a) tell Miles that sharing is caring and try to get them to play together?
b) distract Miles and get him to play with something else because it's not worth the hassle?
c) not do anything?  Life is tough, and kids will have to learn to fend for themselves.

Scenario 2:

Miles and Toddler X are playing with a toy.  Toddler X is not sharing and takes it away from Miles, leaving Miles crying.  Do I:

a) tell Toddler X that sharing is caring and try to get them to play together?
b) distract Miles and get him to play with something else because it's not worth the hassle?
c) not do anything?  Life is tough, and kids will have to learn to fend for themselves.

Now that Miles is starting to have more opinions and is playing more with other kids, I'm not sure what the "right" way is.  With close friends, we've already established an agreement where we trust each other enough that we give each other permission to discipline each others' kids if necessary.  But if you're not very close with the other kid's parent, how do you handle these situations without it getting awkward?  (or is it just always awkward?)  And even if you are very close with the other kid's parents, could this still become a conflict?  Feel free to respond anonymously! :)

5.12.2013

vacation's remorse : by amy

Hello from sunny South Beach!  Yes, I happen to be celebrating Mother's Day away from my baby, which wasn't exactly planned, but here we are.  It's our first vacation without Logan...and it's quite nice....now.  It didn't exactly feel this way from the start.

We dropped him off at grandma's on Saturday evening since our flight was early Sunday morning.   He's slept there many times before when we go to weddings or have late night dates, but we always slept over at grandma's together, which meant we would always take a peek at him prior to going to bed and greet him in the morning.  This time, we dropped him off knowing we wouldn't see him for another 2-3 days.  When I got home and started packing for the trip, I felt a little emptier.  I saw his stuffed penguin on the floor (which he was going to bring to grandma's, oops!), but an instant wave of nostalgia hit as I picked it up and hugged it.  We were going up and down the stairs, making all the noise we needed to, living and moving about the house freely.  Yet, the house still felt somewhat emptier.  I missed him already, and only a couple of hours had passed.  Every weekday, I spend 9 hours away from him.  I even went on a couple of business trips- one was international, but I never felt like this...almost a guilty feeling.  Is it because we were purposely going on vacation without him?  We were going to have fun in the sun without our little one?  This is good practice for us too, said my husband.  I guess so.

That night, we went to bed without checking on him.  We just passed by his empty room.  We prayed that he was resting well.  I woke up this morning still missing him and wanting to greet him in the morning.  But my husband reminded me that this was the beginning of our vacation- just for the two of us.  We were going to make each minute count...because we weren't sure when this would happen again!   I will admit that I started to feel a lot better and ironically, less guilty, as soon as we arrived at our hotel.  The balmy sun.  Friendly palm trees.  Perfect ocean-scented zephyr.  Oh yes, I deserve this... :). It also helped to hear that Logan had a blast at church with grandma and grandpa, and later with his aunt and uncle.  Grandma has also been sending us frequent fun videos which I watched on repeat while poolside.

The husband did a great job planting a few surprises in the trip to make it special, so now I'm sort of wishing we could stay for another night!  But I'm also excited to come home and spend a stay-cation with Logan for the remainder of the week.  Until then, another 36 hours left in Miami!

5.03.2013

No, Thank You : by jean

A couple years back, before I was pregnant, I used to make fun of my friend who would say "no, thank you" to her daughter instead of just saying "no."  It totally made sense, but at the time as someone with no kids, it was funny hearing her say "no, thank you, please get down," "no, thank you, can umma have this?" etc.

Now that Miles has opinions, guess what I started to say?  "No, thank you Miles.  Please don't throw your food.  No, thank you Miles.  Please don't put your hands in the toilet.  No, thank you Miles.  You are too close to the TV."  My friend heard me say it and laughed at me.

It's really hard to stay patient as your toddler is throwing food all over the place and say "no, thank you" instead of just plain "NO!"  Once I was so fed up that I looked at him, gave him a stern look, pointed at him and said "NO, MILES,"  and he looked at me and copied me.  I couldn't help but crack up. Oye!  He's definitely constantly stretching my patience.  

He recently started going through tantrums too.  Lying down on the floor, rolling around, crying about who knows what.  At that point, I either try to hug him to calm him down, say "no, thank you Miles", or ignore him.

How do you guys deal when your babies get like that? 


I said "No, thank you Miles.  Please don't put food in your hair" but he didn't agree.

Amy talked about giving Logan his first time out session last week.  Is it too early for Miles to have time-out?

I've also heard of people putting their kids in the crib to settle down when they are acting up.  Has anyone tried that?